What is our Goal?
Odds are you have shared your opinion about the now infamous Miley Cyrus performance that took place last Sunday.
Because this blog is posted on the Good Girl Comeback website, you might think I’m about to share my own opinion about how I disagree with her performance, outfit, dancing, etc. But that is NOT what this is about.
This post IS about the question I had to ask myself after six days of witnessing almost constant “Miley bashing”– what is our goal?
I love seeing our country talk about morals, self-respect, modesty and values. But, what’s breaking my heart is we are forgetting that the subject of the ongoing conversation is a 20 year old girl.
I want to be clear – I have read, watched and listened to some conversations move past “Miley bashing” and respectfully discuss the morality issues tied to this current event. What I‘m addressing today is the more frequent “rants” I have witnessed; making judgmental statements about Miss Cyrus and using horrible names that I refuse to repeat on my blog.
So again, I repeat my question – what is our goal? Is our goal to use this as an opportunity to educate our young women about self-respect and dignity? Well if that’s true, we are doing a terrible job – I have heard very few people move beyond the “what kind of girl would do that?” to “here’s what we can learn from the situation.”
We are doing a great job of teaching our young women is that it’s ok to disrespect another young woman just because we feel she disrespected herself. That it’s ok to call her terrible names on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and anywhere else the Internet allows because we believe that her actions deserve it. We are also teaching them to expect the same treatment themselves when they inevitable make a mistake in their own life.
If we are upset that Miley disrespected herself then why are we disrespecting her as well?
As Americans we can’t stop talking about bullying – yet some of us have been doing just that for a week straight.
To be blunt, I can almost guarantee Miley hasn’t watched a single negative interview about her performance, she will never see the Facebook posts or the blogs that clearly state how we feel about the issue. But do you know who IS listening? Our young women.
So what now?
The performance happened, we saw it, we have talked about it and then talked about it some more.
But, if our goal is to use this opportunity to educate our young women about virtue – then we need to start responding to the situation with just that and more specifically, the virtue of love.
That doesn’t mean we can’t have an opinion contrary to Miley’s performance. What it does mean is the conversations we do have shouldn’t be contributing to the disrespect.
I believe that we are doing more damage to our fellow women by judging, hating and ripping apart Miley than her performance ever did.
Instead I challenge you – if the Miley Cyrus performance upset you, channel your anger into something positive…
- Maybe this is an opportunity teach girls in your community that they deserve so much more than to be looked at as an object. That they can gain more confidence by showing off their brain, rather than their bodies and that they will receive true love by valuing themselves for who they are and not what they look like.
- Maybe this is an opportunity to realize that our role models should be our grandmothers, teachers, mothers, aunts, friends, and sisters.
- Maybe this is an opportunity for us to spend a little more time loving the teenagers in our own life. Pointing out the positive decisions they are making rather than the negative decisions of someone else.
If we want to see something positive come from the MTV performance, spend time loving the women in your life instead of hating a girl who isn’t.
So again I poise the question – what is our goal?